Don’t Waste Your Singleness
We all have a desire to fall in love, and be with our so called “soul mate”. I believe as we grow as adults there is a fantasy in our heads of how we should be approached, how we should be treated, and even our marriage proposal. There is nothing wrong with having a longing to be loved but don’t let that be the center of your life.
When I was 29 years old I really wanted to re discover myself. It was the last year in my twenties and I wanted to learn from all the mistakes I made and really grow as a woman. During that season of discovery, I realized that I idolized relationships. It shocked me because as believer of Christ I put something before God. I was that women who felt pressure to be in a relationship and get married because that is what society stated. I should have already had at least 2 children and been married by the age of 29. I even was with men who I knew where not a potential mate, but because of the fear of loneliness I settled a lot. My friends at the time where no help because they were desperate for a man too. I really had to separate from the world in a sense and find out what my values were again and my worth. I had to love myself again. I had to learn the value of singleness.
THE BENEFITS OF SINGLENESS
Discover yourself- I am constantly changing in every aspect of my life, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physical. You need time to learn yourself so you can teach people how to treat you.
Travel- Go see the world. Travel to places you never been and do things you have never done.
Date multiple people- Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. I have been dating multiple men in my singleness. You learn what you like and what you are willing to deal with. Let me be clear, dating multiple men does not mean having sex with them. It’s just that -dating, multiple people to see what you like.
Being single is truly a gift and there is a time for everything. Enjoy the season you are in and don’t waste your singleness.